There are a couple of things that I don’t like about myself. If we skip some more intimate, the one that I can share with you is the fact that I’m a Plan B person.
By this I mean that whatever I do I always have a plan B. Just in case that plan A doesn’t work as I was expecting.
In many situations this was highly appreciated, especially by my employers. Companies love that. To have both plan A and B at least. Some other, obsessed with successes like having C, D and E on top. The fear of being unsuccessful probably became one of the top-rated fears in the last decade or two. Sometimes that’s very personal and it depends on the character of a person, but very often “be successful or go home” was heavily promoted as desired behavior.
I was in couple occasions very proud because I successfully executed my B plans when it comes to my career. But, after a while it started to bother me. Following some of those “successes” I have figured out that I was feeling very unsuccessful. It was pure personal perception, not an objective observation. But at the end of the day personal perception is everything. Nothing is objective.
Of course, the main question was: did I do my best to succeed in plan A? Sometimes I even quit plan A before I’d even started seriously, because plan B was more probable to get me success.
If you start chasing something that is very important for you I think plan B should become history. Especially if you are about to make a significant change in your life and career. Even if you fail with what you are doing, you will figure out what to do next anyway. You will be forced to.
So the focus should be on two more important things:
- How to make your plan A work?
- How to quickly recover from failure – if it happens!
I can’t write anything that will make you much stronger than you were before reading this post, so that you drop your plan B, but I can try to offer some inspiration.
First of all, if your plan A becomes success, the level of satisfaction is going to be so high that you will immediately forget all the pain that you went through all of the scary moments. I guess it’s somewhat similar to giving birth. I never did it, gave birth, I mean, but my wife did it twice and believe me it was not easy for me either.
Plan A is always something with a higher level of interesting details and something more intriguing. So you will have good stories to tell. While you are doing it. And for many years after. Of course, if you like and you know how to tell stories. But even if you don’t know how to tell it, people are going to feel it around you. Those who believe in things call that aura.
Have you ever thought of doing your plan B first? And then, safe and covered, jump into your spectacular plan A? It’s a simple twist that asks for some time, but it might be a good solution for us with higher levels of anxiety.
And yes, I’m writing all this to encourage myself to say goodbyes to all of my B plans. Because, if I continue like this I will always stay on a B list . Remember my post about fabulous Nicole? And for some reason I think that I can become an A lister. Better sooner than later.
Cheers to major, big, amazing plans A! We will make this toast with shots of AlquimiaReserva de Don Adolfo Extra Añejo Tequila. Starts with A and costs $125.